What Successful People Do That Unsuccessful People Do Not Do

Today, I’m reflecting on a few principles that have shaped my journey and set successful people apart from the rest.

One key difference is the ability to compartmentalize. I wear many hats: I’m a doctor, a farmer, an author, a school proprietor, and an African and global citizen. Each of these roles has its place in my life, but I know how to integrate them when analyzing issues. Successful people learn to organize their lives into compartments yet sync them harmoniously, allowing them to respond effectively to challenges from multiple angles.

Another principle is to love what you do, not necessarily do what you love. This is crucial because sometimes what we “love” won’t lead to success or even self-fulfillment. Instead, it’s important to put your whole heart into whatever you do, even if it’s difficult or uncomfortable. This investment in your work will draw others to support you in ways that may surprise you.

Successful people also learn to build relationships with people they don’t necessarily like or agree with. Life, especially business, is filled with people from various backgrounds and beliefs. Sometimes, we let our rigid beliefs hinder us from beneficial partnerships. Politics, for example, is an arena where individuals with diverse backgrounds unite despite personal differences, especially when there’s a shared interest.

I’ve also found that there’s value to be learned from other faiths and communities. I admire the simplicity of Muslim burials and the communal values they uphold. I respect the Catholic Church’s dedication to community needs, and the consistency of Jehovah’s Witnesses. By observing and appreciating these traits, I apply some of them to my own life, benefiting from their wisdom.

Another principle is learning to do the hard things, even if they’re uncomfortable. I wake up early, even when it’s the last thing I want to do, if it means making my journey successful. I’ve traveled in the early hours, applied for visas, and waited outside embassies long before dawn. These are sacrifices that push us toward success, yet unsuccessful people often avoid them, thinking they’ll achieve their dreams without effort.

When I first started writing books, I wrote by hand, often struggling late into the night. I’d write and rewrite, driven by the vision of completing my work. And when it came to selling real estate, I trekked through muddy waters to meet clients before I could afford to build a road to the site. My advice is simple: push through until the job is done, and always reward yourself for small victories. This habit of self-reward builds resilience and reinforces that you’re capable of more than you initially thought.

I used to be shy, uncomfortable in public spaces, and unlikely to strike up a conversation. But when I saw the need for mentorship, particularly for young African men, I made a commitment to God to break out of my shell. Now, I openly share my journey, my struggles, and my triumphs, hoping to empower others to find success.

Finally, I learned from my wife’s ability to take action without waiting for perfect conditions. She has a drive that keeps her moving, even through mistakes, and we’ve achieved great things as a result. In life, don’t wait for everything to line up perfectly before you begin. Push past inertia and start—keep moving, and the results will follow.

Thank you for listening. I’ll be hosting a webinar titled Becoming a Person of Influence on November 8th and 9th. Send a message to +234 80 2121 9262 to register, join our mentorship group, and receive more insights into what it takes to be a successful person.

God bless you