In a recent conversation hosted by @Marriagefamilythewordtv3025, I had the privilege of discussing the pressing issue of moral decadence in society. It was a thought-provoking dialogue, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to share insights that I believe are crucial in addressing this societal challenge.
The Role of Family in Society
The family is the foundational unit of society. As I often say, the psychology of an adult is deeply influenced by the first five years of life. This formative period, when a child is primarily with their parents, shapes their values, habits, and outlook on life. Families today, however, face significant challenges in fulfilling this critical role.
Modern life often pulls parents away from their children. Whether it’s the grueling hours of work in Lagos or the multiple jobs pursued by families in the diaspora, the result is the same: diminished parental presence. As a result, children are left to be shaped by external influences—many of which lack the moral compass needed to mold them into responsible members of society.
To train a child, as the Bible reminds us, is an intentional act. It involves molding, shaping, and sharpening them with values that transcend materialism and momentary pleasures. Unfortunately, in many cases, we are raising children without truly training them. We give them toys and gadgets but fail to instill in them the principles that sustain societal harmony.
The Impact of Society and Media
Society’s contribution to moral decay cannot be ignored. Today, we are inundated with content that glorifies violence, immorality, and instant gratification. Music, movies, and social media have become pervasive influences, often eroding the values instilled at home. For instance, studies have shown that the same part of the brain used to process rap music is critical for solving mathematical problems. When this part is overstimulated with aggressive or violent lyrics, it impairs cognitive development in other areas.
Additionally, unfiltered access to explicit content normalizes behavior that was once considered unacceptable. The lack of regulation in media content has made it harder for parents to shield their children from negative influences.
The Environment Within and Beyond the Home
A child absorbs their surroundings like a sponge. From prenatal influences—such as the music played or the words spoken around the unborn child—to the societal norms they observe, every experience leaves an imprint. This is why it’s essential for parents to create a nurturing and value-driven environment both before and after birth.
Parents must be deliberate in:
Prophesying and speaking positively over their children: Words have power. I’ve seen firsthand how declarations of greatness spoken over newborns manifest in their lives as they grow.
Balancing discipline with love: Be friendly, fatherly, and firm. Teach children the value of money, responsibility, and respect for others from a young age.
Exposing children to excellence: Whether it’s through quality education or introducing them to role models, children should be surrounded by environments that inspire them to achieve greatness.
Addressing the Collective Dysfunctionality
The moral decadence we see today is a product of collective dysfunctionality. Families, schools, religious institutions, and governments all have a role to play in reversing this trend.
Parents need to prioritize presence over presents. Being physically and emotionally available is more impactful than providing material comforts.
Educational systems must focus on holistic development. Beyond academic success, schools should instill character, integrity, and discipline in children.
Society must reclaim its values. This requires intentional efforts to regulate harmful content in media and promote narratives that uplift and inspire.
A Call to Action
If we do not address moral decadence, society risks being consumed by it. As parents, educators, and leaders, we must recognize our collective responsibility to mold the next generation. This requires intentionality, discipline, and a commitment to values that sustain societal progress.
As I often say, eternal life is like a perfume: the more we share it, the more its fragrance lingers. Let us share the fragrance of values, discipline, and purpose with the coming generation so they can rise above the challenges of our time.
I am your friend, Dr. Charles Apoki.
