I want to share some reflections on recent events and the importance of applying wisdom in resolving conflicts, both personal and public.
Wisdom in Action: Afe Babalola and Dele Farotimi
I recently came across a report alleging that Elder Statesman Afe Babalola has withdrawn his case against Dele Farotimi. It was said that the intervention of Yoruba traditional rulers, including the Ooni of Ife, inspired this resolution. This is a powerful display of wisdom.
Regardless of one’s position or status, it takes humility and respect for tradition to let go of a dispute for the greater good. Baba Afe Babalola’s decision to withdraw the case demonstrates the wisdom of valuing peace over prolonged conflict.
Social media often amplifies disputes, but, as I’ve observed, the attention fades with time. A case in point is the Streisand Effect, where trying to suppress a matter only amplifies it. When disputes are dragged into public domains, they often attract unnecessary attention. However, once the parties involved let go, the world moves on quickly.
This brings me to an appeal for wisdom in other ongoing matters.
A Plea to Eezee T, Mercy Chinwo, and Judy
I recently responded to a discussion involving Eezee T, Mercy Chinwo, and Judy. As someone with personal connections to some of those involved, I’ve chosen to avoid fueling the flames of social media debates. Instead, I appeal to all parties to seek an amicable resolution outside of court.
Just as Elder Afe Babalola demonstrated wisdom, I urge these parties to prioritize peace and reconciliation. Social media thrives on conflict, but true wisdom is found in extinguishing the fire rather than feeding it.
Lessons from Conflict Management
In my personal life, I’ve learned that it takes two hands to clap. If someone seeks to quarrel with you and you choose not to engage, the conflict will fizzle out. My wife and I have been married for 40 years, and we’ve practiced this principle consistently. When potential conflicts arise, I remind myself not to provide the other “hand” for the quarrel.
A Rapidly Moving World
As society evolves, events unfold at an unprecedented pace. What once took years now happens in mere hours. This rapid pace reminds us that most disputes, if left alone, will fade into obscurity. Wisdom lies in knowing when to let go and focus on bigger mountains to conquer.
Conclusion
To everyone reading this, let us embrace the wisdom of reconciliation, humility, and letting go. Whether in personal relationships, business partnerships, or public disputes, true strength lies in resolving conflicts peacefully.
If this message resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.
God bless you.
Dr. Charles Apoki.
