Hello, I’m Dr. Charles Apoki, your friend with a message that might sound different from my usual topics. But the core is the same—helping you live a life of wisdom, responsibility, and purpose. Today, I want to talk about something serious: the way we handle relationships, especially when it comes to intimate choices, or as we say, “knacking.”
It’s not about the size of your physical attributes; what truly matters is the size of your vision and the strength of your mind. Letting physical attraction alone dictate your relationships can lead to unintended consequences, from unplanned children to financial drain to STDs. And these consequences do not respect anyone—they affect both men and women.
“Don’t Let Your Erection Give You Direction”
Physical attraction can be powerful, but remember this principle: don’t let physical impulses guide your future. When choosing a life partner, focus on character and shared goals. The woman who carries your children should also be able to carry your vision. Consider the big picture. Marrying strategically, especially if you come from a humble background, is crucial. Cheap relationships, based solely on physical attraction, often carry expensive, life-altering consequences.
I’ve noticed that children from wealthy families often marry strategically. They might have casual relationships for fun, but they choose lifelong partners who align with their goals of success, influence, and stability. This isn’t about endorsing promiscuity; it’s about learning to manage your impulses responsibly.
Be Mindful of a Culture of Excess
Today, in many communities, including ours, places like bars and lounges are packed with people who prioritize short-term satisfaction over long-term growth. There’s an abundance of opportunities for impulsive relationships, and without discipline, people lose focus on their vision. Ask yourself what a person brings to your life and where this connection is leading you. Is it adding value, or is it a distraction from your goals?
A Warning for Married Men
This isn’t just for young people; it’s also a warning for married men. Ask yourself: What am I chasing, and at what cost? Pursuing young women outside your marriage can lead to children in your later years. These kids may still be teenagers when you’re much older, leaving them vulnerable and financially unstable if you pass on. By the time relatives and others divide whatever you leave behind, they may struggle. Take a lesson from the history of wealthy families that have dissolved due to poor decisions.
Pursue More Than Physical Attributes
Don’t make physical appearance the foundation of your relationships. Intelligence, shared vision, and character matter far more. People like Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, for example, don’t depend on appearances to impress. She’s a respected figure globally, running for a second term as Director General of the World Trade Organization with no opposition. Her husband isn’t merely proud of her physical beauty—he admires her intellect, impact, and contribution to society. Aim for relationships that provide real growth and fulfillment, financially, emotionally, and intellectually.
Wisdom for the Long Run
In the end, physical features and youthful energy will fade, but wisdom and shared dreams grow richer with age. Don’t “knack” carelessly—follow sound principles, biblical or otherwise, that encourage discipline and responsibility. Don’t sacrifice your future or your purpose for temporary satisfaction. A life lived with wisdom and discipline is the best way to achieve true, lasting fulfillment.
Remember, I have a webinar on December 6th and 7th, where we’ll discuss these topics further. Register by messaging +234 705 213 6763. Join me in learning how to make smarter, strategic decisions in every area of life.
Stay blessed, and keep your vision sharp.
