Hello friends, I am Dr. Charles Apoki, the global grandfather. Today, I want to address a topic that’s been coming up a lot in the comment sections of my videos, particularly regarding what people perceive as a “soft landing” when you travel to a place like Europe. Social media, as you all know, is a mixed bag—you get comedy, ruthlessness, and sometimes insightful comments. But this idea of a soft landing really caught my attention.
Let’s start by clearing the air—this is not my first time in Europe. I’ve been here before, the first time in 2012 when my eldest son graduated from medical school. I’ve also been to Australia and other parts of the world. So, for those who think I only have this perspective because I’m living on easy street, that’s not the case. I’ve paid my dues—literally and figuratively.
hard Work Leads to Soft Landing
People often misunderstand what it means to have a soft landing. Soft landings don’t just happen; they are the result of hard work and preparation. You can’t live an irresponsible life and expect to have things handed to you when you travel abroad. I came to Europe with enough money to take care of myself. I didn’t come here to depend on others. In fact, I had money saved before I arrived—dollars in my account, ready for whatever might come my way.
This misconception that a soft landing is some sort of entitlement is dangerous. The reality is, if you work hard and plan well, you create your own soft landing. I have real estate, I’ve built businesses, and I’ve invested wisely in Nigeria. That allows me the freedom to travel and enjoy the comforts that come with hard work, both at home and abroad.
Why Do People Experience a Hard Landing?
The problem arises when people don’t have a clear plan before traveling abroad. Why are you here? Did you come legally? Do you have an employable skill? If not, you’re setting yourself up for a hard landing. When I came to Europe, I was ready—whether I met my family here or not, I would have been fine.
If you’re going to travel, make sure you have a skill that can earn you a living, a product or service you can sell, or an employable skill. These are the building blocks of success abroad. It’s not about whether someone is sponsoring you or if you’re getting handouts. It’s about what value you bring to the table.
The Illusion of National Pride
I’ve always said that Nigerians need to stop deluding themselves with misplaced national pride. Our leaders, both political and religious, are part of this system that keeps us in denial. We need to face the reality that our country is not in the best shape, and this isn’t a matter of being unpatriotic—it’s about being honest.
I love Nigeria deeply. In fact, I have a softer landing back home than I do in Europe, where I can only stay for a limited time before my visa expires. But loving your country doesn’t mean you should ignore its faults. We have to stop making excuses and start working toward real solutions.
Choosing the Right Path for Success
For those thinking about studying or working abroad, you need to be smart about it. Look at the reputation of the schools, the cost of living, and how you’ll be treated as a foreigner. My children studied here in Romania because it was affordable and offered great opportunities. I didn’t choose expensive options like the UK or the US because there are more factors to consider than just prestige.
When deciding on a country, think about what future you have there after you graduate. Can you stay and work legally? What is the pathway to citizenship? These are important questions you need to ask before making the leap.
The Importance of Self-Sufficiency
I’ve lived a life of independence. I don’t rely on others to take care of me. When my grandchildren are born, I send money for their care even before they arrive. I’m not waiting for handouts, and I don’t expect others to fund my life. This is a mindset more Nigerians need to adopt. You can’t expect others to give you everything—work hard, plan your life, and create your own soft landing.
In conclusion, success abroad isn’t about luck or being sponsored. It’s about preparation, hard work, and making smart decisions. If you’re thinking of leaving Nigeria, or even just looking for better opportunities, remember that nothing comes easy. Plan well, work hard, and you’ll create your own soft landing.
I’ll leave you with this—stop deluding yourself with national pride and start facing reality. The earlier we do this, the better for us all.
God bless you all.
Dr. Charles Apoki
