One of the mindsets you must develop very early in life is to resolve not to be a burden on people. That decision creates a desire for enterprise, for entrepreneurship, for hard work, and for discipline. Ensure that you do not bring trouble to your family. Most people who later constitute a nuisance in society are usually those who constantly bring problems to their families.
As you grow older, learn not to carry every burden. Be very selective about the burdens you carry. You cannot carry everyone along. You will realise that a time comes when you need to outgrow your family. Be responsible to your parents, but understand something: most times, the people who truly contribute to your life are not members of your family. Think about that. If it is true in your case, say yes. Very often, those who bring daily problems to you through WhatsApp messages, phone calls, and endless demands are members of your family.
A time comes when a man must outgrow his family. Be responsible, but outgrow them. Do not get tied to their problems. Do not get tied to their foolishness. Live your life to the fullest. In every family, there are different types of people. Some are subtractions — they always take from you. Some are additions — they are very rare; they add value to your life. Some are multiplications — they increase whatever you do.
Make sure you avoid those who are subtractions. If you open businesses for them, they will ruin the business. If you give them money, they will end up quarrelling with you.
Family is not a track; it is just a point of origin. Set your mind on how far you want to go, and make sure you associate with those who add to you and multiply your efforts, not those family members who constantly criticise you and drag you backwards. Take those firm decisions, and you will have a good life.
We are on the move again.
Dr. Charles Apoki is my name.
God bless you.
