I am Dr. Charles Apoki, and today is December 12, 2024. This season feels quieter than usual—no jingle bells or fireworks echoing through the streets. While the calm may reflect the challenging times we face, it also serves as a reminder of the need to be our brother’s keeper.
Recently, I encountered a young boy, barely 17 or 18, who had gained admission into a university but couldn’t afford the ₦150,000 required for off-campus accommodation. He had resorted to menial jobs at a rice farm, trying to raise the funds. When his story reached me through my lawyer, I felt compelled to help.
This boy turned out to be an alumnus of my alma mater, Government College Ughelli, a bond I hold dear. I immediately issued a check to cover his accommodation and committed to paying his tuition fees for the next four years. His parents, who had felt abandoned by the church during their struggles, were deeply moved. His father’s faith, previously worn down by hardship, was reignited.
This isn’t about self-praise. Rather, I share this to inspire a shift in how we give. Let our giving focus on directly meeting people’s needs and providing sustainable solutions. For instance, someone once sent me ₦500,000 to support people in my community. Inspired by their generosity, I matched that amount and prepared to distribute ₦50,000 each to 20 individuals. But I won’t stop there—I will teach them how to use the money to create sustainable businesses. My goal is to empower them to earn at least ₦2,000 daily, providing stability beyond just the festive season.
Giving must transcend temporary relief; it should empower, uplift, and restore dignity. This approach brings me immense joy. I don’t say this for accolades; I say it because I believe in the transformative power of thoughtful, deliberate giving.
Planning for the Future
As men, there’s a lesson here about preparation. By age 40, you should start laying the foundation for your later years. At 50, you should have secured your family’s path and begun planning for a self-sufficient future. By 60, as I am now, it’s okay to be a bit selfish—invest in your health, peace of mind, and sustainability.
I’ve planned well, and though I’m not a rich man, I am secure. I don’t need much to live comfortably, and my focus is on maintaining good health and being a blessing to others. At this stage of life, I don’t need new clothes or extravagant expenses. My needs are simple, yet I have enough to help others.
A Call to Action
As we navigate this season, let us redefine our approach to giving. Let it be people-focused, solution-oriented, and an evangelical act in itself. When you give, ensure it transforms lives, restores hope, and builds a better future.
Remember, the true joy of giving lies in seeing lives changed for the better. Be intentional, and let your impact ripple beyond just the moment.
God bless you.
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