Hello, my friends. I’m Dr. Charles Apoki, and today, as I explore various museums, I’m reminded of how crucial it is to document our journeys. Through these videos, I’m sharing not only my experiences, values, and principles but also my thoughts and observations.
As I reflect on my surroundings—whether it’s the security measures in place or the social dynamics in different countries—I can’t help but think about the challenges we face in Nigeria. Observing homes in countries like Ethiopia and Romania, I see precious items like gold and luxury watches openly displayed, separated from the public by nothing more than glass. People walk freely, without the intense security measures we have back home, like high walls, barbed wires, guard dogs, and security personnel. It makes me wonder: why is it that in Nigeria, our homes resemble fortresses, and our lives are dictated by fear?
The answer is desperation and deprivation. In our country, a lack of basic needs, economic hardship, and deprivation push people toward criminality. When people lack access to essentials, crime becomes a means of survival. Just like a hungry animal settles down after feeding in green pastures, so do people when they are secure and their needs are met. This lack of fulfillment drives many to resort to theft and other forms of crime, and the result is a cycle of fear that affects us all.
In other countries, there is a robust system of consequences that deters criminal activity. In South Africa, for instance, surveillance cameras keep a close watch on public spaces, which reduces crime. But it’s more than just the consequences—it’s about opportunity. Many Nigerians, Africans, and migrants around the world take immense risks, even crossing the Mediterranean or the harsh Sahara Desert, in hopes of a better life. They risk their lives because the challenges and hardships they face at home are far worse than the dangers of the journey ahead.
As a society, we need to address what’s driving people into crime rather than only focusing on punishing those who get caught. We need to create an environment where people don’t feel forced to take these dangerous and illegal paths. This means fostering an economy where people can find work and meet their basic needs without having to resort to crime.
Another significant factor fueling criminal behavior in Nigeria is the unhealthy culture of comparison. Many people are driven by the need to live up to societal expectations, which often leads to desperation. When I see young men flaunting money online, I recognize a deep-seated need for validation, a subconscious desire to mimic the wealthy. This pressure to keep up, to be seen as successful by society’s standards, pushes many into crime, as they try to live up to an image that is both demanding and unsustainable.
I’ve learned over the years that true contentment lies in living within your means and resisting the urge to compete with others. I remember a time when I couldn’t afford to send my children abroad for schooling. I simply accepted it, did my best with what I had, and when the time came and I could afford it, I took that step. I believe in doing what you can within your means and not allowing society to dictate your happiness or sense of achievement. Whether it’s career, finances, or family, we must learn to define success on our own terms, free from societal pressures.
We have a long way to go, but I believe that by addressing these underlying issues, we can create a better future. If you’re interested in learning more about personal development and becoming a person of influence, join my upcoming webinar on November 8th and 9th. You can message +2348021219262 for more details.
Remember, change starts with understanding and action. Let’s work towards a society where everyone can live freely, safely, and without the need to look over their shoulder.
God bless you.
