“Unmasking the Facade: Why Social Media and Societal Pressures Create Unrealistic Expectations”
We often find ourselves admiring and comparing our lives to others, whether it’s their seemingly perfect relationships, successful careers, or flawless appearances. However, the truth is that most of what we admire is not entirely real. Social media platforms, societal pressures, and the highlight reels of others’ lives create unrealistic expectations and a false narrative of perfection.
In this article, we’ll explore the reasons behind this illusion, the impact it has on our lives, and how to break free from the cycle of comparison and discontentment.
The Facade of Perfection
- Social Media Manipulation: Curated profiles and edited posts create unrealistic standards.
- Societal Pressures: Expectations from family, friends, and community shape our aspirations.
- Highlight Reels: Others’ successes and achievements are showcased, hiding their struggles.
The Consequences of Comparison
- Unhappiness and Dissatisfaction: Constantly feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.
- Anxiety and Depression: The pressure to conform and compete takes a mental toll.
- Missed Opportunities: Focusing on others’ lives rather than our own goals and aspirations.
Breaking Free from the Illusion
- Authenticity and Vulnerability: Embrace your true self and share your struggles.
- Realistic Expectations: Recognize that nobody is perfect and everyone faces challenges.
- Focus on Your Journey: Prioritize your goals, values, and happiness.
By acknowledging the illusion of perfection and shifting our focus to our own paths, we can cultivate a more authentic, fulfilling life, free from the constraints of unrealistic expectations.
I have closely observed humanity since childhood. Don’t shape your life based on what you see in others. Instead, live according to God’s divine plan for you, depending on His grace and direction.
1. Many Admired Figures Are Heavily Indebted
A lot of people you admire are not as wealthy as they seem. Their outward appearances—expensive cars, clothes, and flashy lifestyles—often mask financial struggles. I once had a friend with a beautiful car, which I later discovered was bought on loan, with monthly payments to the bank.
I know a woman who traveled the world and mocked my wife’s attire. To my shock, she once called me asking for a loan to pay her daughter’s school fees. We have never needed help with our children’s education, even abroad.
There are prominent figures who appear wealthy but are financially struggling. One bishop, widely celebrated, was later found to be begging for money to cover his bills. We, on the other hand, do not owe any banks and avoid borrowing. Our cooperatives serve as our main financial backup.
Don’t pretend to be rich—that’s the spirit of poverty. True wealth is often understated, while poverty may display itself loudly.
2. Every Marriage Faces Challenges
All marriages have their struggles; some people just manage them better. Don’t compare your marriage to others. I once knew a prominent pastor whose marriage appeared perfect on the surface, but they are no longer together.
Our marriage, with its own unique style, is still going strong. It’s not just love or romance that sustains a marriage but responsibility. Time will prove this truth.
3. People Have Hidden Lives
You can never fully know what people do in secret. I had a senior in secondary school who spent money extravagantly. He is now in prison for defrauding the government, while I remain in my home.
4. Religious Leaders and Political Silence
Many religious leaders in Africa, particularly Nigeria, struggle to speak out against government oppression. Often, their voices are silenced by money, gifts, and contracts. Don’t compare your wealth and status with theirs. Live your own life with integrity.
5. Time Changes Everything
As someone who has witnessed many transitions from this life, I can attest that time reveals true worth. You may admire others now, but as time passes, you will appreciate your own journey and progress.
Don’t be discouraged by others’ achievements. David almost lost his way when he saw the prosperity of the wicked. Not all prosperous people are ungodly, but you must focus on your own life.
Live at your own pace and stay true to your path.
God bless you.
I remain your friend, Dr. Charles Apoki. You are my responsibility.
