I was a very bad boy when it came to carnal relationships, but God saved me from the path that could have led to having a baby mama or a hidden mistress. Here are the key factors that contributed to this transformation:
1. Early Marriage
I got married early, at the age of 26. My wife was 24. This is the age when many people experience teenage pregnancies and end up having baby mamas. Marrying early helped anchor me in a committed relationship and shielded me from many temptations.
2. Early Conversion
I also got born again at 26. The transformation in my life was profound. The environment in Igbo land where I grew up was monogamous, religious, and deeply rooted in Pentecostal values. Immorality was not tolerated, and this instilled in me a fear, respect, and love for God.
3. Father’s Counsel
My father’s counsel played a significant role. He told me that committing adultery would shorten my life by one year each time. I took his words to heart, avoiding adultery altogether. This counsel stuck with me, helping me navigate through temptations.
4. Respect and Integrity
I believe that integrity pays. I could not tell my hardworking, beautiful wife—the mother of my children and my childhood friend—that I loved her, and then betray her by sleeping with another woman or having an affair. Our relationship is built on respect and love.
5. Observations on Polygamy
Growing up, I observed the consequences of polygamous marriages and having many children. Polygamy brings about complicated and expensive consequences. Cheap sex may seem appealing, but the long-term costs are far too great.
Challenges and Temptations:
I was tempted and seduced many times, but God helped me resist. My wife is a remarkable woman, and I cannot betray her trust. I realize that having an affair would be too complicated and expensive for me, both emotionally and financially. Instead, I prefer to invest in my relationship with my wife, giving her my full attention and support.
Moreover, I’m a bit of an eccentric. I don’t think the average woman could tolerate me. I don’t have the energy for the complexities of maintaining an affair. Instead of giving money to a woman outside, I prefer to give financial “orgasm” to my wife at home. She is my partner, my friend, and my confidante.
Conclusion:
God has been my guide, my strength, and my protector. He saved me from a path that could have led to having a baby mama and a hidden mistress. I encourage you all to seek God’s guidance and strength in your relationships and to remain faithful to your commitments.
God bless you all.
